Wednesday, October 31, 2007

I'll never understand this body.

I have had THREE (count them, 1-2-3) positive OPK's in a row on days 18-20. That's WAY sooner than last month when I was on Clomid. So, unmedicated cycle where my body is doing something on it's own. Amazing. Unfortunately I had a wicked stomach virus in the middle of all of that, so I am surprised my body did anything. But, still...positive OPK's. In my opinion, that's news worth posting about!

(Just thought I'd let you know.)

Sunday, October 21, 2007

Sweet Sorrows

I prepared this post for my other site, but I thought it right to post it here as well so that you know that I am learning much right now. Infertility is only half the battle right now--there are so many other things that are difficult right now. But, here are my most recent thoughts:

There has been much on my mind lately. I can hardly put into words how hard the last two weeks have been. Actually, the last six months have altogether been difficult like I've never known my life to be. After a while, the piling on of suffering begs the question, "How long, O Lord?" My heart constantly cries out within me. The burdens and heartache of ministry and the church, the weight of infertility, the loneliness that accompanies both of these hardships, even the stressful, physical ramifications of such things....sometimes I wonder how much more I can bear. There are days when my heart is so heavy that all of my day to day living seems trivial in comparison.

But, oh, how God can use even the smallest of sufferings to draw us close to Him.

I have been learning some valuable lessons, things I would not have otherwise learned had it not been for my circumstances. A few weeks ago, I immersed myself into the book of Acts. Reading about the daily sufferings of Paul and the early church have encouraged me so much. Comparitively, my life seems so easy and carefree. And yet, I know that it is not so. Constant rejection and insults, tense relationships, and things outside of my control like infertility remind me that there are some hardships that I have known in my short life, that I am knowing now. I want to say with Paul that I am content with whatever state, that in Christ I can be content no matter my station, possessions, hardships, whatever. Now, I know it seems incongruous, or just wrong to group infertility with hard things that happen to me because I am a Christian or because I am in ministry (with my pastor-husband). I don't have trouble conceiving because I am a believer, necessarily. I don't have headaches or stomachaches because I am a Christian. But, Paul (2 Cor. 11:23-33) endured beatings and imprisonment, danger from false brothers and countrymen (for the cause of Christ) AND danger from rivers and the cold, the wilderness, sleeplessness, exposure, lack of food. As John Piper says, "Rivers don't get all over you because you're a Christian!" (It's okay to laugh at that statement; I did.) And yet, Paul groups those types of sufferings together. I listened to a sermon series on suffering by John Piper last week. (They are available for uploading [as I did on my iPod; how terribly convenient it was!] here.) In this sermon series, Piper fleshes out why at times it is okay to group sufferings together--sometimes suffering is just suffering, no matter the reason. The point is--how do you handle that suffering (no matter how great or small)?

In the midst of hardships, what I want is to be, like Paul, sorrowful yet always rejoicing (2 Cor. 6:10). It seems that Christ is teaching me this most miraculous thing, and it IS a miracle because I look at certain situations I am currently facing and thinking, "this is IMPOSSIBLE!". To look at it with both sorrow AND joy seems even MORE of an impossibility! To be able to do so must be a gracious gift of God. I have prayed for encouragement--not a reprieve because I realize that maybe a reprieve is not what is needed right now--but for encouragement in the middle of sorrow. At a time when I feet like all is lost, when I watch my husband bear the weight of the world, when I question our calling or our future, I am amazed at the gift the Lord has given me: joy in my sorrow. Miraculous joy and sorrow at the same time. How can this be? Answered prayer is all I can tell you.The Lord has used specific people--unexpected people--to speak words that are a balm to my battered soul. He has used His Word to calm my fears and to give me comfort: Lamentations 3, Isaiah 12, Mark 10:1-31, among others. He has used the public reading and proclamation of the Word to edify me, reduce me to tears from both sorrow and deep, abiding joy. I do not know how I woke up with a song in my heart this morning apart from the comforting presence of the Spirit. He is my sun and shield, my ever-present help in the time of trouble. Whom have I to fear? What can man do to me?

There are so many moments of question. I wonder what to do next, what steps to take. Will the Lord take away my suffering? Is it even right to ask for that when I am being so blessed through these difficult days? The only answer I can give to you is this: His grace is sufficient for me. For His power is made perfect in my weakness. "Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ's sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong." (2 Cor. 12:9-10)

*Please do not come away from this post thinking that I am comparing my troubles to that of Paul or the early Church, or to those of missionaries and the persecuted Church worldwide. That is not my aim. Obviously, I am not enduring physical beatings or imprisonments or death. But, I cannot deny that our life has been difficult for the past two years, and even more so the most recent six months. My goal is to examine all of this and call it "gain" for the sake of Christ. I want to embrace any suffering the Lord appoints (because I DO believe that both suffering and blessing come from His hand [and might they not be the same thing?]) and I want to be sorrowful yet always rejoicing. I have so very much to learn, but I praise God for the way He has directed my steps thus far. He has shown me much grace and He is closer than my very breath.


Wednesday, October 10, 2007


I know someone out there is wanting an update, so I figured I would let you in on my little secret: another month of hopes has ended in a sea of tears and despair. It hits me harder some months than others. I wonder why, after some 42 failed cycles, I would not be accustomed to the disappointment. I wondered that today. So did William. It's hard to look in one another's eyes and speak about hope when our hearts are so visibly broken. I can barely see through the sheen of tears to even write these words. I was so hoping that we would be celebrating some sort of miracle this time.....which is what I hope every month. In desperation, I think, "It's not like we're asking for that much, Lord! It's not like we're asking to be rich or famous. We just want to be parents." But, maybe all He is asking us for is patience.

So many have asked us, "What now?" Truthfully, I do not know. It would be easier if someone would just say, "Glenna, do this. This is what is best, this is what is right." I would gladly let someone make the decision--any decision, at this point. William and I both go back and forth--adoption? reproductive assistance? nothing? What to do...
We do have some tentative plans, but because we change our minds so much, we are kind of keeping things to ourselves at the moment. When we feel like we can act on our decision, we will let you know what the plans are. I can tell you this--no medication or assistance for the rest of this year. That much I do know. Other than that, give me a couple of weeks or so.

This is just not something I thought I would still be dealing with nearly four years from the starting point. Some days, like today, the sheer weight of it threatens to crush me completely. It is at this time that I can't help but cry out, "How long, O Lord?"

"So I say, 'My strength has perished,
And so has my hope from the LORD.'
Remember my affliction and my wandering, the wormwood and bitterness.
Surely my soul remembers and is bowed down within me.
This I recall to my mind,
Therefore I have hope.
The LORD'S lovingkindnesses indeed never cease,
For His compassions never fail.
They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.
'The LORD is my portion,' says my soul,
Therefore I have hope in Him.'
The LORD is good to those who wait for Him,
To the person who seeks Him.
It is good that he waits silently
For salvation of the LORD.
It is good for a man that he should bear the yoke in his youth.
Let him sit alone and be silent since He has laid it on him.
Let him put his mouth in the dust,
Perhaps there is hope...
For the Lord will not reject forever,
For if He causes grief, then He will have compassion
According to His abundant lovingkindness.
For He does not afflict willingly or grieve the sons of men....
Who is there who speaks and it comes to pass,
Unless the Lord has commanded it?
Is it not from the mouth of the Most High that both good and ill go forth?"

Lamentations 3:18-29 31-33, 37-38

Please uphold us in your prayers as you always do. And, if you know me other than through this blog, please don't call right now. I am needing some time. Thanks.


Tuesday, October 2, 2007

what the heck?

Would you believe I actually had a positive--TRULY positive--as in, the test line was darker than the control line--positive OPK on day 27??????????????????????

Craziness. Looks like this will be a long cycle.

(No, we did not go in for the IUI, even though I had a positive. Are you kidding me? It was cycle day 27, for crying out loud!!)

Just thought you'd like to know.