One of my readers posted the link to this beautiful video in my last post's comment section. I think it aptly portrays those who have been through multiple years of infertility. I have posted it in the past, but it has been a while, and I find it to be worth re-posting. It might be a good link to send to friends or family who might be having a hard time understanding your struggles. Think of it as a way to share your burden with others who might not understand but who want to support you.
There is once section I really struggle with in the video. It is the part about not attending events that are hard reminders of our infertility, things like baby showers, dedications, etc. I have turned down invitations to these events in the past because it was just too painful to attend. I would definitely understand someone doing that because I have done it a few times. But, where the video (and many others, myself included) called it "self-preseveration," not to be confused with selfishness, I wonder if self-preservation is the godly response of believers who are infertile. I mean, what is the right response? I feel that God has used the past 4 years to teach me to truly rejoice with others instead of withdrawing as I would like to do when I see them living out my dream of parenthood. I lived for FAR too long in selfishness but justified it by calling it "self-preservation". It threatened my relationship with Christ, my marriage, my friendships. It was something I had to be rescued from because I was drowning in it. Praise God for He pulled from a depth of selfish despair I do not care to revisit ever again.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this, especially those of you who are professing Christians who are also dealing with infertility. What has been your experience? What do you feel God expects of us?
(Eleven days until my appointment at the Infertiliy & IVF Clinic.)