Monday, May 19, 2008

::Great Day::

It was almost exactly 5 months ago that we were headed down I-55 from St. Louis after a devastating doctor's appointment with an infertility specialist. I remember that night clearly...it seemed that with every mile that passed, another tear rolled down my face. What a hard night that was. There were tearful phonecalls to friends and family members who had prayed and wanted to know how our appointment went. I'll never forget how hard that trip home was. It seemed like our dreams of a family were so far out of our reach that we would never be parents like we so wanted to be.

Tonight we road down that same interstate road. What a strikingly different trip home it was. With excitement and overwhelming joy, we realized that our dreams were unfolding right before our eyes.Thank you to all of you (and I know there were MANY) who were praying for us today. Our meeting with the birthmother went SO well. I was immediately drawn to this woman. For privacy's sake, there is not a whole lot that I can post online here, but if you want to know more details, free to call or email. What I can tell you is that this gracious woman is unbelievably excited about giving us the gift of her son. She is so excited! Both she and the birthfather (who was unable to come) are both African-American, but they are okay with their sone being raised by a Caucasian couple, which is a relief to us. Of course, we have been open to transracial adoption from the beginning, so this is exciting for us. Having had several other children, she knows what it takes to raise a child. She said that she knew the first time she looked at our profile that WE are the couple she wants to raise her son. After meeting us, she was even more certain. She is very committed to her adoption plan thus far, and is so eager for us to become parents. She asked that we be in the delivery room with her when the baby is born!!! We are overwhelmed at her gracious attitude towards us. We could not have picked a more sincere and sweet person!

Her decision is final, at this point. So, all we do now is wait for the phone call to tell us that she is in labor. She expects for that to happen over the next two and a half weeks, she said. (!!!!) We were instructed by the social worker to keep a bag packed with several changes of clothes, and all the baby gear (um....what baby gear? We have none of that yet! Thankfully, our church shower is this Saturday!) Because the baby will actually be born in Illinois, there is something called an interstate compact agreement which will delay things, but that's okay. Ideally, we will be able to spend the night in the hospital while he is there. It is our birthmother's desire that we are there for the whole birth--she wants me to cut the umbilical cord!!--and for us to care for the baby in the hospital. We will get to do the feedings and everything! This is just overwhelming to me...I may never get to give birth or do all of these things myself, so when she said that she wants us to have as much of the birth experience as possible, it just blessed me SO much. Again...can you tell how gracious she is?!

She brought a gift for us.
In a musical frame that played a fun song was this:



She had also enclosed a sweet little card about us becoming parents. Really...could she BE any nicer?!?! :) It was all I could do not to cry!

I can't believe that I'm looking at a picture of "our" son!!! Now, I am a horrible sonogram reader and since this was taken late in her pregnancy, he's almost too big for the picture, but that is a profile shot of his head and his hand is up by his mouth. I keep looking at it and saying, "William, I can't see it! What am I looking at?!?!" It's funny. On the computer, I can see it much more clearly when I enlarge it. ;)

We will definitely keep you all updated! We are amazed at how the Lord is working out every single detail of this process. And how FAST it is going!!! It's too much to take in right now!! We are going to go ahead and pack a few items tonight "just in case," although I hope baby boy stays put for a little while longer. ;)
We praise God for His wonderful blessings in all of this. We ask for continued prayer. Nothing is final until the 72 hour revocation period immediately following the birth is over. It won't be until then that the baby is really "ours". We feel that our birthmom is REALLY committed to this, but you never know for certain until it's all overwith. So please pray for all of this process. Pray for a safe delivery for birthmom and baby boy.
Thanks again for praying and thinking of us. We are humbled by the love, grace, and faithfulness of the Lord.He has done great things!!!
XOXOX,
glenna

24 comments:

Becky said...

As I sit reading this, I am reliving both of our adoption experiences again!! It brings tears to my eyes. I know how you felt on that firt trip down the highway...when you thought being a mom would never be. And, I know how you felt traveling that same road, knowing that the possibility was so close and becoming so real! I pray that all goes exactly how God has ordained it, He is in control!
Blessings!! and prayers....

Anonymous said...

Yeah!!!! I couldn't wait to read the update and I'm so thankful to the Lord that it's positive. I'll continue to keep y'all in my prayers (everyone involved) and that the Lord continues to provide you with the resources you need for this journey and all others. He never gives us what he can't handle, and if he can handle it, so can we (I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strenghtens me). Blessings!

Alex & Jill said...

I am amazed at how fast this is going! You guys are in my prayers...praying for birthmom and that little one as well. :)

Amy said...

Wow! Things are moving so fast...so exciting. We'll pray that they continue to progress smoothly! Awesome! We are open to interracial adoption also, and it's encouraging to know that someone who is non-caucasian could be OK with a caucasian couple raising her child.

Joannah said...

What an amazing turn of events! Your tears of sorrow are turning to tears of joy. I've been reading your blog for a while now, and I'm just so pleased to see you move out of your season of grief to a new season of hope and expectation.

Enjoy!

Laurie said...

Glenna,
I was sent your blog address from my friend Elizabeth (Coleman) Brodie-she said she went to college with you.

It put a smile on my face to read your account of your birthmother. We fell in love with ours at first meeting as well and were just giddy! We began trying to conceive in April of 2004 too and now four years later we are the parents to an adorable 3 year old son and 1 year old daughter, both with very different adoption stories!

I will add you to my list of blogs that are fun to keep up with as I can't wait to see your beautiful baby boy!!

In Search of Morning Sickness said...

Wow!!! I am in shock of how it all went! Just... wow! I can't believe that in less than a month you guys could have your own son in your home!

I think it sounds so blessed that she wants you guys to be as much apart of the birth as possible. How special! Pleeeeeeeease keep posting! I even checked last night to see if you'd posted! :) This is SO exciting.

I have a friend of a friend's blog that I love to visit. She and her husband have two transracially adopted siblings, and they have set the most amazing standard of love, understanding, and joy of adoption and racial harmony. Check it out if you have time:
http://james127.blogspot.com/

andrea_jennine said...

Oh, wonderful! I'm guessing the birthmother is probably in southern IL (since that's closer to where you live), but if she's actually in the Chicago area and you need anything while you're in IL for the birth, please e-mail me!

Jonathan Zila said...

Wow! This is amazing. Jen and I had a very similar story. We found out on Monday and Haven was born on Satruday.....2 and 1/2 weeks early!!!! Get ready fast....you are about to embark on a great journey!!!

Lauren said...

Oh my gosh, I'm so excited for you! Pretty amazing that the birth mother is so gracious and kind.

Fertilized said...

Glenna- are you kidding me- how fantastically amazing is that! Oh so soon ( maybe before me) you will be holding a precious lil boy! What a wonderful miracle. I am praying for all parties involved.

Muskie Mom said...

I'm so excited for you! Your post once again brought back so many memories. We, too, fell in love with our daughter's birthmom at the first meeting. She said to us, "ya'll are the ones."

What an amazing blessing. I'll be praying for you and your family that everything goes smoothly.

We, too are a transracial family and our daughter has been a blessing to so many people. She's touched so many lives in her 21 months. God works in awesome ways!

Rochelle said...

I don't know you personally but stumbled across your site a while back through a friend of a friend of a friend :), and have been so blessed by your story. I was getting all teary while reading this latest update. What an absolute blessing for you! Praise the Lord! God is so good and so sovereign. I wish you all the very best on your soon-to-be-parents journey. Keep trusting in Him and He won't lead you astray.

God bless!

Alison said...

So you will be momma in less than 3 weeks? Reading your post gets me excited for the both of you. I will be praying for you!

Tracey said...

I AM SO SO HAPPY FOR YOU! I ONLY HOPE WE FIND A BIRTHMOTHER AS SELFLESS! I WILL PRAY THAT ALL GOES WELL!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! NOW GO SHOPPING!!

Hope said...

Ohhh Glenna, as soon as I could get online this is where I wanted to go first. So many prayers went up for you and your husband, the birth mom and dad too. Wow 2 weeks!! I am crying of course, tears of joy and relief that things went so well.

I was doing pretty good until the picture :) Your baby boy! I will keep you all in my prayers until you bring your little one home.

This all going so well is encouraging to those of us whose road of having a baby from our womb is coming to an end. Much love to you!

Hope2morrow said...

Wow! What an exciting time in your lives! I found your blog today and seems like the Lord has his hand in this, for sure, considering how quickly the whole process is coming together for you! Cogratulations!

shona tiger said...

Hi, have been following your blog (and getting emotional) ... such a powerful, powerful testimony. thank you for writing from your heart.... am praying with you.

Melba said...

All I can say is WOW! We're in the process of adoption too, so reading your story DID make me cry! This is just wonderful - I love it when I hear positive news regarding adoption. I will continue to think of you and I will check back to see how it all goes for you over the next several weeks. Best of luck!!

Melba

Gretchen Osowski said...

This is such amazing news, I will be waiting for updates and pictures! What a blessing, I just hope that my experience with adoption is as wonderful as yours has been. Continued prayers will be heading your way from me.

Rachie Pachie said...

Wow that is so awesome! Especially for her to bring you the picture & frame it & all! Congrats! Will be thinking of you & checking back often! :)

Tracey said...

We are on our way too...(see post yesterday)...all paperwork finally turned in...home study here we come!!!

Christy said...

I couldn't be more excited for you guys! We got matched with our child the day he was born and I remember all those feelings! What an exciting time for you guys and I can't wait to read more! Celebrating with you...

Dave Gerhart said...

We're so excited for you guys! We met Josiah's birthmother at Bethany two weeks before her due date. Both her and the birth father are AA, and they were really excited about their adoption plan! They allowed us to name him and to be in the hospital, which was the biggest gift! We've been with him every moment since his birth, and I cherish that!

We can't wait to go through the process again! we'll be praying for you guys!